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Negotiation in Conflict and Divorce: Expert Tips

Podcast Episode

May 01, 2025•1 min read

Strategies for Negotiation in Conflict and Divorce Resolutions

Navigating Divorce Conflict with Kevin

Divorce equals conflict. Emotional wounds are raw, and every interaction with a soon-to-be ex can feel like salt in the wound.

Highlights from the Episode:

Emotional Wounds in Divorce Kevin discusses how emotional wounds are frequently reopened during divorce. .
Reducing Conflict in Divorce Kevin highlights how reducing conflict can save thousands in legal costs.
The Importance of Communication Kevin shares a narrative of a typical marriage and divorce scenario to illustrate how conflicts escalate.
Financial Implications of Divorce The average divorce costs about $15,000 per person when children are involved..
Common Divorce Scenarios Kevin discusses how common scenarios, like parents arguing in front of their kids, can lead to significant legal and emotional costs.
The Four Horsemen of Divorce Referencing John Gottman's Four Horsemen (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling).
Reactive vs. Responsive Behavior Kevin explains the difference between being reactive and responsive.
Steps to Being Responsive Kevin offers practical steps to move from reactive to responsive behavior.
Repairing Emotional Wounds Drawing from the book Fierce Intimacy by Terrence Real, Kevin outlines six levels of a breakdown in a relationship and how to address each level to repair emotional wounds.
The Benefits of Resolution Kevin stresses that finding resolutions in divorce benefits everyone involved, especially the children.

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