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Beyond Divorce Support Groups

May 03, 20252 min read

Why Divorce Support Groups Often Miss the Mark and How to Find True Assistance


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Why Divorce Support Groups Are Bad!

There are a LOT of Divorce Support Groups out there. They're where many people turn when they're feeling isolated and struggling to process what's happening to them.

I know—I run one. However, I've come to realize that Divorce Support Groups often aren't what people truly need.

In this episode, I'll explain the following:

  • Explanation of why divorce support groups may not be suitable for everyone, despite being a common resource for those in need of support.

  • Comparison of support groups to an ER visit for pain relief: while support groups offer a place for sharing and receiving support, they may not address the deep pain and healing needs of individuals.

  • Characteristics of support groups, including being typically free or low cost, run by volunteers, and sometimes faith-based, with potential drawbacks such as becoming "meat markets" or platforms for venting rather than healing.

  • Emphasis on the importance of recovery groups for focused healing, led by trained facilitators, with a structured plan for growth and no dating allowed.

  • Benefits of recovery groups, including a progression of learning and growth, a proven system, and a focus on individual healing and growth.

  • Comparison of the bonds formed in recovery groups to soldiers going to war together, as participants work through deep trauma and support each other in profound ways.

Ready to Begin? If you're ready to start feeling better, listen here:

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For most people, the issue lies in joining a support group and finding it doesn't fulfill their needs. They then give up, assuming it's just the way things are.

I don't want that for you. I want you to receive the right KIND of support.

If, after listening to this episode, you're interested in joining our Support Group for three months free of charge, you can do so here: https://go2.rebuilders.net/sg-information

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