A 5-Day In-Person Divorce Recovery Immersion ·
Santa Fe, New Mexico · November 2–6
Five days to
do the work that finally
sets you free.
You've read the books. You've talked it to death. You've given it time. And you're still carrying it. The Phoenix Immersion is five days, away from everything, with the guided work and the small circle of people who actually understand — the reset that reading and waiting can't give you.
Only 15 seats | November 2–6, 2026 | Santa Fe, NM
Is This You?
If any of this is where you live right now…
You're functioning on the outside and falling apart on the inside.
The same questions loop at 2 a.m. — Why did this happen? What could I have done? Who am I now?
People who love you keep saying "just give it time" and "you'll move on," and it makes you feel more alone, not less.
You don't want to be angry, or bitter, or this version of yourself — but you don't know how to put it down.
You want your life back, and part of you isn't even sure who that person is anymore.
You're not broken, and you're not behind. You're carrying an injury that most people around you can't see — and it deserves real care, not a pep talk.
Why you're still stuck?
Heartbreak isn't one problem. It's four.
When a marriage comes apart, it doesn't just end a relationship. It tears through four layers of your life at once — and most people only try to fix the top one.
We call these four layers RIFT:
Relationships
Trust cracks, and not just with your ex. With family, friends, your own judgment.
Identity
The "you" that was built around the relationship suddenly has no shape.
Feelings
Grief and anger flood in, and there's nowhere to put them.
Thinking
Your mind won't stop running the tape, searching for an answer that would make it hurt less.
Here's the trap: the pain feels like a thinking problem, so you try to think your way out.
But your head can't heal your heart.
Recovery has to walk back through these layers in reverse, on purpose, in the right sequence. That's what almost no one does alone. That's exactly what these five days are built to do.
WHY 5 DAYS CHANGES
WHAT 5 YEARS COULDN'T
You open your eyes and realize: you didn't dream about them last night.
Your first thought isn't about what they're doing or who they're with. It's about the stillness outside your window—high desert quiet, the kind you forgot existed.
You step outside before breakfast. The air is cool and thin, sharp with piñon and sage. The sky does something here it doesn't do anywhere else—shifting from violet to gold before you've finished your coffee. And for the first time in months, maybe years, you feel something unexpected:
Over the next five days, something shifts. You sit in circle with people who get it. Who know what it's like to lose not just a person, but your whole identity. Your future. Your sense of who you are.
You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to be strong. You can finally just... feel.
By day three, you're laughing—real laughter, the kind that comes from your belly. By day five, you realize you've gone hours without thinking about them.
On your last morning, you watch the sunrise break over the mountains with people who were strangers five days ago but feel like chosen family now. And you know: you're not the same person who arrived here.
You're rebuilding. And this time, you're building something better.
When you take the time it takes,
it takes less time.
Time on its own doesn't heal you — it scabs over the wound. The reason five focused days can move you further than years of limping along comes down to one thing: you finally stop, and you do the actual work, with nothing pulling you back into the old patterns.
Welcome to Mixto Retreat
Your Sanctuary: Mixto Retreat
Mixto Retreat, nestled in the serene village of Quimixto, Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, offers a delicate fusion of luxury and nature. Located just 45 minutes from Puerto Vallarta International Airport, this beachfront sanctuary is enveloped by the lush Mexican jungle and the pristine Pacific Ocean. It embodies an intimate, cozy atmosphere, often described as a tropical oasis that beautifully marries high-end boutique amenities with organic, nature-inspired design and warm wellness hospitality.
Spaces to Gather & Grow
At Mixto Villa, you'll discover a variety of communal areas designed for both connection and quiet reflection. The beachfront terrace, bar and restaurant dining patio, open-air yoga shala, and poolside areas provide ample space for gathering.
Picture yourself practicing yoga in an open-air shala uniquely positioned between the ocean and jungle, or relaxing by the infinity pool with breathtaking ocean views. The seamless flow between ocean, jungle, pool, and dining terrace ensures that every moment—whether in practice, in conversation, or in stillness—is steeped in natural beauty.
Immerse
Four reasons this goes deeper than anything you've tried.
Immersion
No commute back to the reminders. For five days you are somewhere else, doing one thing
Safety.
A small, held container with people who won't flinch, minimize, or tell you to move on.
Community.
By midweek this stops being strangers and becomes the circle you didn't know you were missing.
Structure.
Not a talking-circle. A proven, step-by-step method with a facilitator guiding every phase.
Five days
the whole way through
Most programs stop at grief and call it recovery. This one walks the complete arc — from the thoughts that trap you all the way through to rebuilding how you connect, communicate, and let people close again.
Day 1: Sunday
Arrive & land.
Fly in, settle into your room, and gather for a gentle welcome. No work yet — just landing.
Day 2: Monday
Thinking: the stories that keep you stuck.
We start where the mind is stuck: the unanswerable questions you keep circling. You'll learn why answering them was never the way out — and begin to set the loop down. The circle forms.
Day 3: Tuesday
Feelings, part one: grief.
Grief is a full cup; crying spills over the sides but the cup stays full. Here you'll learn to intentionally empty it — the guided work that can release a striking amount of the weight in a single session. Feeling it and processing it are not the same thing, and this is the day you finally process.
Day 4: Wednesday
Feelings, part two: anger.
The anger you didn't want to admit to — whether it turns outward or inward as self-blame. You wouldn't tell someone with a broken leg to walk it off; emotional injury is no different. We release it, cleanly, without becoming it.
Turning the corner.
We will take the afternoon off and go to the amazing local hot springs.
Day 5: Thursday
Identity: your next version.
You don't go "back to who you were" — that self was shaped by the relationship. This is the day you begin designing Version 2.0: naming the inner critic, rebuilding self-worth, remembering who you are on your own. We close the evening with dinner together — the whole group, four days in, walls down.
Day 6: Friday
Relationships: connection, communication, intimacy — and integration.
The deepest layer: rebuilding trust across every relationship in your life, learning to say I feel… I need… I'm asking… instead of disappearing or defending, and getting honest about closeness and intimacy again. We finish by integrating the week — how you carry this home so it holds.
The Place.
Why Santa Fe
There's a reason people have come to here to heal for centuries.
Santa Fe sits at 7,000 feet under some of the clearest light and biggest sky in the country — sun almost every day of the year, thin dry air, the Sangre de Cristo mountains on the horizon. It's a landscape that strips away noise and hands you back your own clarity. For work about letting an old self burn down and rising into a new one, there's hardly a more fitting place than the desert Southwest.
Quail Run
Our sessions are held at Quail Run, a quiet, private club setting on Old Pecos Trail — comfortable rooms, calm grounds, and enough seclusion to do real work without the world watching. You arrive Sunday, we begin Monday morning, and for five days this becomes your container.
The Journey Begins
Fly into Albuquerque (about an hour away) or Santa Fe's own airport (minutes from town) — no passports, no connections through anywhere hard, no complicated transfers. You can be here.
This is the container. Safe, beautiful, completely removed from your regular life. When you're here, you can finally let your guard down.
Ojo Santa Fe
Pecos Trail Inn
Where You'll Stay
Pick the stay that fits you — we'll point the way.
Lodging isn't bundled into your tuition, and that's on purpose: it keeps your investment lower and lets you choose the experience that fits your budget. We recommend two places, and the whole group tends to cluster so no one feels alone at night.
For comfort & restoration
Ojo Santa Fe
A hot-springs spa resort on 77 desert acres just outside town: unlimited mineral soaking, morning yoga, farm-fresh dining, no screens in the rooms. Soaking away the day between sessions is its own kind of medicine. Plan on a car.
Roughly $300/night
For simple & close
Pecos Trail Inn
A charming, restored Southwestern motor lodge right on Old Pecos Trail — the same road as our sessions, so a car is optional. Clean, comfortable, easy on the budget, with a beloved café on-site.
A short walk to the sessions
Roughly $150–200/night
Meals: Santa Fe is a food town and nearly everything is within ten minutes — with one group dinner together on Thursday night. Budget around $300 for the week. (We'll give you a full list of easy, reasonable spots near the venue.)
You'll be in experienced, steady hands.
Guided by experience, rooted in empathy. Meet the facilitators dedicated to your renewal.
Kevin Van Liere
— Founder, Rebuilders.
Kevin built Rebuilders on Dr. Bruce Fisher's four-decade Rebuilding methodology and distilled it into the RIFT framework that guides this work. An engineer by training, he thinks in systems — which is why the process is clear and sequenced rather than vague, and why so many people who felt hopelessly stuck finally find a path through. He's the author of 10-Week Divorce Recovery.
Kathryn Beachy
— Co-facilitator.
A trauma-informed, certified somatic coach, Kathryn brings the body into the work — because grief and heartbreak don't just live in your thoughts, they live in your nervous system. Her presence is what makes the room safe enough to go where the real healing is.
"You'll have both of us guiding you through the week. Male and female perspectives. Different coaching styles. Different life experiences. You get the full picture."
The method & the proof
This isn't a feel-good weekend. It's a measured method.
Rebuilders is built on Dr. Bruce Fisher's Rebuilding methodology — 40-plus years and roughly 19 steps of divorce-recovery work that's helped people rebuild since 1981. We've simplified it into RIFT: four phases you can actually feel yourself moving through.
And we measure it. Before you arrive and again as you go, you'll take a self-assessment built on the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale — think of it as an emotional weather report. You'll see, in numbers, how far you've moved. This is recovery you can track, not just hope for.
#1
Named "Best Divorce Recovery Program in the United States of 2026" by Best of Best Review
1981
Built on a methodology proven since 1981
80%
A guided release of up to 80% of grief and anger — often within a single session
15
A small cohort — just 15 people, so no one gets lost
The five days are the center
— not the whole of it.
This isn't about positive thinking or willpower.
This is measurable, lasting transformation.
Before The Retreat
The weight of staying stuck
Once you're enrolled, we drip you online prep material so you arrive ready to go deep from day one — not spending day one warming up.
During & after
Stepping into your future
Your place in our Tuesday Phoenix Live community, and a path into ongoing support once the retreat ends, so the momentum you build here keeps going when you're back home.
Why You're Still Stuck
(And It's Not Your Fault)
There's a reason you are still stuck. And once you understand it, everything changes.
Here's what nobody tells you about divorce recovery:
"You can't think your way out of your feelings."
Most approaches are talk-based. You process the same stories, week after week, for years. But talking about grief doesn't move grief. Talking about anger doesn't release anger.
And "giving it time"? That just means you're stuck for longer.
Divorce recovery happens in a specific sequence. There are layers: relationships, identity, feelings, and thinking. Skip a layer, and you stay stuck. Try to rush it, and you fall back.
Most people try to skip straight to "moving on" without doing the actual grief work. That's why you're fine for three months, then fall apart again. That's why dating feels impossible. That's why you can't trust yourself.
The Phoenix Immersion gives you the roadmap.
We've worked with over helped thousands of people through this process. We know exactly where you're stuck and exactly how to get you unstuck. Not with theory—with proven, structured healing work that creates measurable change.
Pre & Post Assessment
You'll take the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale before and after the retreat, measuring progress across 19 rebuilding blocks.
80% Reduction
In measurable grief and anger
Proven Framework
40+ Years Proven - This framework has guided over 300,000 people through divorce recovery since 1981.
This isn't magic. It's structured recovery. And it works.
In Their Own Words
The Reality of Rebuilding
These are real people who did the work. They walked in stuck. They walked out rebuilding.
"It was life-changing—safe, deep, and healing. I've never felt this connected to a group of people before. The team was so in sync—it felt like magic. Everything was beautifully organized and deeply supportive."
Susan
Retreat Participant
"The sense of connection and openness was unlike anything I've experienced. Kevin, Kathryn, and the entire team created a container where I could finally let my guard down. The deep conversations and gentle facilitation helped me process emotions I'd been carrying for years."
David
Retreat Participant
"Kathryn's approach to the gentleness and quiet voices inside changed me profoundly. I finally listened. I found myself. And then Kevin gave me a perspective and helped me lock in on what Kathryn had taught in a different way. It was absolutely life changing. I see myself and the world differently. I move with an ease I have always wanted. Best thing I've ever done for myself."
Shawn
Retreat Participant
These are real people who did the work. They walked in stuck. They walked out rebuilding. You can too.
Why 5 Days Changes
What 5 Years Couldn't
Traditional
Therapy
1 hour per week
Talk about the same issues repeatedly
Go home to the same triggers
No breakthroughs, just processing
Still thinking about ex daily
Average recovery: 2-5 years
"Just Give
It Time"
Passive waiting
No framework, no tools
Repeat the same patterns
No community, no support
Isolation makes it worse
Wake up 2 years later still stuck
Phoenix
Immersion
5 days of immersive healing work
Proven framework guides the process
Remove yourself from all triggers
Community of people who understand
Measurable transformation
Wake up thinking about your future, not your past
Average recovery: months, not years
Activities & Offerings
Your time at Mixto Retreat promises to be filled with unique experiences. You will have private beach access and opportunities to partake in cacao ceremonies, ice baths, and jungle hikes. You might find yourself exploring temazcal rituals, enjoying bonfires, or engaging in snorkeling, surfing, and kayaking.
The venue also offers wellness-focused amenities such as a spa with therapeutic treatments, yoga workshops, meditation classes, and aerial yoga hammocks. You'll have everything you need for a rejuvenating experience.
The Investment
What it costs — and what staying stuck costs.
A profound shift requires a dedicated space. Review our transparent investment
A year of weekly therapy runs well past $5,000 and can circle the same ground for months. A single hour with a divorce attorney can run several hundred. Staying stuck has its own price — in lost years, missed connection, and the version of your life that keeps not starting.
Your Tuition
$2,997
Five days to stop circling and start rebuilding.
What's included
Your retreat, fully supported.
Five days of live, facilitated sessions
The full RIFT arc plus communication and intimacy work.
All curriculum, materials, and exercises
Everything you need for the work you'll do throughout the retreat.
Your before/after assessments
A way to see where you started and what shifted.
Online prep material before you arrive
Online prep material before you arrive
A small cohort and your two facilitators
A maximum of 15 participants creates space for meaningful, personal work.
The Thursday group dinner
Included — confirm before publishing.
Your path into ongoing post-retreat support
Continue building on the work after the retreat ends.
Go deeper
The VIP Option
+$1,147
Add a private 1:1 coaching package to your retreat: focused sessions with your facilitator before you arrive and after you head home — to prepare for the deepest days and to lock the changes in once real life resumes.
6 Private Coaching Sessions with Kevin or Kathryn (use before, during, or after)
Customized Recovery Plan tailored specifically to your situation and goals
7-Day Email Support — Get answers any day of the week throughout your journey
November 2-6, 2026
Santa Fe, New Mexico
Pay in Full (Best Value)
6 days/5 nights at Santa Fe (private retreat center)
Intensive healing curriculum (grief, anger, self-esteem, love)
Pre-retreat workshops (3 months of prep work)
Video Based community (daily support starting 3 months out)
Phoenix Live membership (weekly Zoom)
Divorce Recovery Scorecard (before/after assessment)
All materials (books, workbooks, journals)
Post-retreat support (Private Retreat Group, coach access)
$2997
Pay within 6 months
or financing for as little as $200/month
Only 15 spots available. It will sell out!
You arrange separately
Kept out of tuition to lower your cost.
01
Lodging
Two recommended options, roughly $150–300/night.
02
Meals
About $300 for the week.
03
Travel
Travel and a recommended rental car.
Payment plans available.
Your next chapter starts here.
Phoenix Immersion FAQ
Everything You're Wondering
Find clarity and confidence as you prepare for your journey. If you don't see your question here, our team is always ready to assist.
Is this right for me if I'm not divorced yet — just separated, or still deciding?
Yes. Most people who do this work are still somewhere in the middle of it. Wherever you are — considering, going through it, or on the other side — the pain and the work are the same.
Is it co-ed?
Yes. Healing happens faster in a mixed group of people who understand — and it's part of rebuilding trust and connection.
What if I'm a private person? I don't love "group" things.
Nearly everyone arrives feeling that way. There's no forced sharing — you're guided, not put on the spot — and by midweek the group is the part people say they'll miss most
How do I get there?
Fly into Albuquerque (about an hour) or Santa Fe's airport (minutes from town). No passport, no international travel, no boats or transfers — just a straightforward domestic flight.
Where do I stay, and how much should I budget?
You book your own lodging from two recommended options (roughly $150–300/night) and about $300 for meals. We'll send you the full guide once you're in.
What's the weather like in November? What do I pack?
High-desert November: crisp, sunny days (often 50s–60s°F) and cold nights (down near freezing), very dry, lots of sun. Bring layers, a warm jacket for evenings, comfortable clothes you can move and sit in, sunscreen, and a swimsuit if you're staying at Ojo. Drink extra water — the altitude and dry air sneak up on you.
Is this therapy?
No — it's a structured recovery method, guided by trained facilitators, not clinical treatment. Many people do both.
How many people will be there?
15 at most, on purpose.
Fifteen seats. Five days. One decision.
November 2–6, in the Santa Fe high desert. If you're tired of waiting to feel like yourself again, this is the reset — and once these seats are gone, they're gone.
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