For people affected by divorce
What If You Could Stop Thinking About Your Ex—And Start Living Your Life Again?
Join us at our private oceanfront retreat in Mexico for
5 days of intensive healing work that creates the breakthrough you have been waiting for.
November 5-10, 2026 | Mixto, Mexico
Is This You?
This is for you if...
You wake up every morning and your first thought is still about them. You're sick of it, but you can't stop.
You've been separated at least 3 months. You're not in crisis anymore—but you're not moving forward either.
Maybe you've tried therapy. You've read the books. You've given it time. Nothing's working the way everyone said it would.
You're smart, but this one thing you can't fix. And you hate that you can't fix it.
You're done watching life happen to other people while yours feels frozen. You're ready to do something different.
You're willing to get vulnerable with strangers who understand—because pretending you're fine isn't working anymore.
READINESS
This Isn't For You If...
You just separated (under 3 months). You're still in crisis, and that's okay—but you need stabilization first, not intensive work.
You're looking for a vacation or a spa retreat. This is healing work, not escape.
You're not ready to do emotional work in a group setting. Some people aren't, and that's fine.
You're hoping to figure out how to get your ex back. This retreat is about rebuilding you, not the relationship.
"We only want people who are ready. If you're not, that's okay."
Imagine Waking Up Five Days From Now...
You open your eyes and realize: you didn't dream about them last night.
Your first thought isn't about what they're doing or who they're with. It's about the sound of the waves outside your window.
You walk barefoot to the beach before breakfast. The sand is cool under your feet. The water is that impossible turquoise-green you only see in Mexico. And for the first time in months—maybe years—you feel something unexpected:
Hope.
You open your eyes and realize: you didn't dream about them last night.
Your first thought isn't about what they're doing or who they's with. It's about the sound of the waves outside your window.
You walk barefoot to the beach before breakfast. The sand is cool under your feet. The water is that impossible turquoise-green you only see in Mexico. And for the first time in months—maybe years—you feel something unexpected:
Hope.
Over the next five days, something shifts. You sit in circle with 14 other people who get it. Who know what it's like to lose not just a person, but your whole identity. Your future. Your sense of who you are.
You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to be strong. You can finally just... feel.
By day three, you're laughing—real laughter, the kind that comes from your belly. By day five, you realize you've gone hours without thinking about them.
On your last morning, you watch the sunrise over the Pacific with people who were strangers five days ago but feel like chosen family now. And you know: you're not the same person who arrived here.
You're rebuilding. And this time, you're building something better.
You're rebuilding. And this time, you're building something better.
Why You're Still Stuck
(And It's Not Your Fault)
There's a reason you are still stuck. And once you understand it, everything changes.
Here's what nobody tells you about divorce recovery:
"You can't think your way out of your feelings."
Most approaches are talk-based. You process the same stories, week after week, for years. But talking about grief doesn't move grief. Talking about anger doesn't release anger.
And "giving it time"? That just means you're stuck for longer.
Divorce recovery happens in a specific sequence. There are layers: relationships, identity, feelings, and thinking. Skip a layer, and you stay stuck. Try to rush it, and you fall back.
Most people try to skip straight to "moving on" without doing the actual grief work. That's why you're fine for three months, then fall apart again. That's why dating feels impossible. That's why you can't trust yourself.
The Phoenix Immersion gives you the roadmap.
We've worked with over helped thousands of people through this process. We know exactly where you're stuck and exactly how to get you unstuck. Not with theory—with proven, structured healing work that creates measurable change.
Pre & Post Assessment
You'll take the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale before and after the retreat, measuring progress across 19 rebuilding blocks.
80% Reduction
In measurable grief and anger
Proven Framework
40+ Years Proven - This framework has guided over 300,000 people through divorce recovery since 1981.
This isn't magic. It's structured recovery. And it works.
Why 5 Days Changes
What 5 Years Couldn't
Traditional
Therapy
1 hour per week
Talk about the same issues repeatedly
Go home to the same triggers
No breakthroughs, just processing
Still thinking about ex daily
Average recovery: 2-5 years
"Just Give
It Time"
Passive waiting
No framework, no tools
Repeat the same patterns
No community, no support
Isolation makes it worse
Wake up 2 years later still stuck
Phoenix
Intensive
5 days of immersive healing work
Proven framework guides the process
Remove yourself from all triggers
Community of people who understand
Measurable transformation
Wake up thinking about your future, not your past
Average recovery: months, not years
Intensive immersion creates breakthroughs that weekly sessions can't. Here's why:
Immersion
You can't heal grief in 50-minute increments. You need space and time to go deep.
Safety.
You're away from every trigger. No running into your ex. No sleeping in the bed you shared. No reminders everywhere you look.
Community.
Hearing someone else say exactly what you've been thinking—and realizing you're not alone—is healing in a way individual therapy isn't.
Structure.
You're following a proven process developed over 40 years of research. Not guesswork. Not theory. A roadmap.
Five Days That Change
Everything
November 5-10, 2026 • Mixto, San Pancho, Mexico
The Phoenix Intensive isn't a workshop. It's not a seminar. It's an experience.
You'll arrive on a Thursday afternoon, boat across the water to Mixto—a private oceanfront retreat center tucked into the jungle between San Pancho and Sayulita. The entire property is ours. Just 15 of us, the ocean, and five days to do the work you couldn't do at home.
The Journey Begins
Your transformation starts the moment you step onto the panga boat. Leaving the mainland behind, you navigate across the sparkling Bay of Banderas. With every mile, the noise of daily life fades, replaced by the rhythm of the waves and the expanse of the horizon.
Arriving at our secluded jungle cove, you are greeted not just by the stunning landscape, but by a carefully curated environment designed entirely for your emotional safety and deep healing.
What Makes This Different
You're held by two coaches:
Kevin and Kathryn guide every session—male and female perspectives, different coaching styles, you get both
Community starts before you arrive.
Three months before the retreat, we begin building connection—you'll meet your cohort, start the pre-work, and walk in knowing you're not alone.
You're cared for.
Meals are made. Your room is cleaned. All you do is show up and heal.
The whole place is ours.
No other guests. No distractions. Complete privacy and safety.
Co-ed healing.
Men and women together creates a safe container to understand the dynamic that broke you, with coaches who model healthy relationship.
What Your Days Look Like
Morning
Sunrise yoga and breathwork on the beach (all levels welcome—this is about moving energy, not performance)
Breakfast together—real food, made fresh, all dietary needs covered
Morning session: grief work, anger release, identity rebuilding (we go deep, but you're held by the group)
Midday
Lunch overlooking the ocean
Free time: nap, beach, journal, connect with others, just be
Afternoon
Afternoon session: continue the work, process in pairs or small groups, integrate what's shifting
Beach time, sunset, dinner together
Evening
Evening circle: share, reflect, be witnessed
Optional: bonfire, quiet contemplation, early to bed
What's NOT Included:
Flights to Puerto Vallarta (we coordinate airport ride-shares)
Alcohol (Mixto is substance-free—this is healing work, not party time)
Spa treatments (available locally if you want them, but not included)
What's Included
5 nights at Mixto
Private oceanfront retreat center, entire property to ourselves, shared rooms (not co-ed sleeping).
All meals
Breakfast, lunch, dinner made fresh daily. Vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free handled.
Daily yoga + breathwork
Morning sessions to move stuck energy (all levels).
Intensive healing curriculum
Grief work, anger release, self-esteem, love/forgiveness.
Pre-retreat preparation
3 months of workshops (Victim Consciousness, Maladaptive Behaviors, Masks).
Marco Polo group
Private video messaging community (up to 30 min/day support) starting 3 months before retreat
Phoenix Live membership
Weekly Zoom support group, ongoing community (plus free YouTube access)
All retreat materials
Workbooks, journals, everything you need
Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale
Before and after assessment so you can measure your transformation
Post-retreat support
Private Facebook group, continued access to Kevin and Kathryn, pathway to advanced work (peace/forgiveness, trust, communication, intimacy, dating—optional upsells)
Why This Place.
Why Mexico.
Why Now.
You need to get away. Not just from your house—from your whole life.
If you stay home, you'll sleep in the same bed. Drive the same routes. See the same triggers. You need physical distance to create emotional distance.
San Pancho
Isn't Cabo. It's not Cancun. It's a quiet fishing village on Mexico's Pacific coast where locals still outnumber tourists. Where you can walk the beach at sunrise and not see another soul.
Mixto
is a private retreat center—accessible only by boat or 4x4. Nestled between the jungle and the ocean. No cars. No noise. No distractions.
The property sleeps 18, and we're capping the retreat at 15. The entire place is ours. Shared spaces for connection, private spaces for solitude. Ocean on one side, jungle on the other. A palapa for group sessions. Hammocks for afternoon rest. Beach for early morning walks.
This is the container. Safe, beautiful, completely removed from your regular life. When you're here, you can finally let your guard down.
"Most people come alone. By day two, you'll feel like you've known these people forever. By day five, they'll feel like chosen family."
Who's Leading This Journey
Guided by experience, rooted in empathy. Meet the facilitators dedicated to your renewal.
Founder & Lead Guide
I Built This Because I Needed It—And It Didn't Exist
Hi, I'm Kevin. I'm an engineer by training. I'm good at fixing things. I built a business. I raised two sons. I thought I had life figured out. Then my marriage ended—and suddenly I didn't know who I was anymore.
I tried therapy. I read every book. I gave it time. And I stayed stuck for years. It wasn't until I found Dr. Bruce Fisher's research—the proven framework for divorce recovery—that everything changed. I finally understood why I was stuck and how to get unstuck. That framework saved my life. I went from waking up thinking about my ex every day to waking up excited about my future. From feeling like a failure to knowing I was rebuilding something better.
For the past eight years, I've helped over 300 people through Rebuilders International. I've watched the same transformation happen over and over: people arrive broken and leave whole. This retreat is my life's work. I know what you're going through. I've been there. And I know the way out.
Co-Facilitator & Somatic Specialist
A Compassionate Space for Your Transformation
Hi, I'm Kathryn. I've dedicated my career to helping individuals navigate the complex emotional landscapes of major life transitions. My approach is rooted in empathy, deep listening, and the belief that even in our most difficult moments, there is a path toward renewal.
At the Phoenix Intensive, I bring a focus on somatic awareness and emotional integration, helping you not just understand your story, but move through it. Together with Kevin, I'm here to ensure you feel held, heard, and supported every step of the way.
"You'll have both of us guiding you through the week. Male and female perspectives. Different coaching styles. Different life experiences. You get the full picture."
What Actually Changes
This isn't about positive thinking or willpower.
This is measurable, lasting transformation.
Before The Retreat
The weight of staying stuck
Wake up thinking about your ex—every single day
Can't trust your own judgment anymore
Feel like a failure
Watching life pass by while you're stuck
Isolating from friends and family
No idea how to move forward
Trying to "be strong" but falling apart inside
After The Retreat
Stepping into your future
Wake up thinking about your day—your future—your possibilities
Trust yourself again (maybe for the first time ever)
See the relationship clearly—what was real, what wasn't
Taking action in your life again
Reconnected to yourself and others
Have a roadmap and a community
Don't have to pretend anymore—you actually feel okay.
80%
Reduction in Grief & Anger
The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale measures your progress across 19 rebuilding blocks. Most participants see massive, quantifiable shifts.
This isn't our opinion—it's measured results.
In Their Own Words
These are real people who did the work. They walked in stuck. They walked out rebuilding.
"I came to the graduate retreat not sure if I'd ever feel normal again. Five days later, I woke up and realized I hadn't thought about my ex in two days straight. Three months later, I'm dating again—but more importantly, I trust myself again. I know who I am now. That's the real transformation."
Michael T.
Seattle, WA
"I had been in weekly therapy for two years and was still crying on my drive to work. The intensive broke through layers I didn't even know were there. The community aspect is what changed everything for me. Hearing others speak my exact fears out loud took away all the shame."
Sarah Jenkins
Denver, CO
"The setting at Mixto allows you to completely drop your armor. You don't realize how much tension you're carrying until you don't have to carry it anymore. Kevin and Kathryn hold the space so masterfully. I didn't just recover from my divorce; I recovered myself."
David R.
Austin, TX
These are real people who did the work. They walked in stuck. They walked out rebuilding. You can too.
Phoenix Intensive FAQ
Everything You're Wondering
Find clarity and confidence as you prepare for your journey. If you don't see your question here, our team is always ready to assist.
Readiness & Group Work
I'm not sure I'm ready for group work. What if I don't fit in?
Everyone feels this way before they arrive. Here's the truth: you'll fit in because everyone there is going through the same thing you are. The shame you feel? They feel it too. The fear that you'll never be normal again? Everyone has it. By day two, you'll wonder why you were worried.
Group work is powerful because you realize you're not alone. Hearing someone else say exactly what you've been thinking is healing in a way individual therapy can't touch.
What if I'm the only one who's nervous?
You won't be. Everyone shows up nervous. By the end of day one, you'll feel like you've known these people for years.
Is this just for women? Just for men? Co-ed?
The retreat is co-ed. Men and women heal differently, and having both perspectives in the room is incredibly powerful. Your coaches are also male and female (Kevin and Kathryn)—you get both sides.
Sleeping arrangements are NOT co-ed. Men share one room, women share another.
What if I don't want to do yoga?
What if I don't want to do yoga?
Yoga isn't about being flexible or spiritual. It's about moving stuck energy in your body. Grief and anger live in your body, not just your mind.All levels are welcome. Including "I've never done this and I'm not bendy." Kathryn will guide you safel
Will this work if my ex has already moved on?
Yes. This work isn't about your ex. It's about you.
Whether they've moved on or not doesn't change the work you need to do. You're not rebuilding the relationship—you're rebuilding yourself.
Logistics & Travel
I'm not sure I'm ready for group work. What if I don't fit in?
Everyone feels this way before they arrive. Here's the truth: you'll fit in because everyone there is going through the same thing you are. The shame you feel? They feel it too. The fear that you'll never be normal again? Everyone has it. By day two, you'll wonder why you were worried.
Group work is powerful because you realize you're not alone. Hearing someone else say exactly what you've been thinking is healing in a way individual therapy can't touch.
What if I'm the only one who's nervous?
You won't be. Everyone shows up nervous. By the end of day one, you'll feel like you've known these people for years.
Is this just for women? Just for men? Co-ed?
The retreat is co-ed. Men and women heal differently, and having both perspectives in the room is incredibly powerful. Your coaches are also male and female (Kevin and Kathryn)—you get both sides.
Sleeping arrangements are NOT co-ed. Men share one room, women share another.
What if I don't want to do yoga?
What if I don't want to do yoga?
Yoga isn't about being flexible or spiritual. It's about moving stuck energy in your body. Grief and anger live in your body, not just your mind.All levels are welcome. Including "I've never done this and I'm not bendy." Kathryn will guide you safel
Will this work if my ex has already moved on?
Yes. This work isn't about your ex. It's about you.
Whether they've moved on or not doesn't change the work you need to do. You're not rebuilding the relationship—you're rebuilding yourself.