Rebuild Your Life

Divorce has so many aspects to it. It messes with our emotions, it affects our thoughts. Grief, Anger, Guilt, Loss of Your Best Friend, our understanding of how we are. Trust. 

 Getting through it on your own is nearly impossible.

The reality is that you never were taught how to grieve, how to express your needs. 

Most people think it just takes time. In fact, if you wait for it to get better the underlying anger and issues will still be there. It turns out, the people that take the time to work through their thoughts and feelings recover. And they go on to live a wonderful life.

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Classes are on Sunday Evenings from 7-9pm ET (4-6pm PT) for 10 weeks, starting September 6, 2020.

If this class doesn’t work for you then contact us here for our upcoming schedule. 

Graduates of our course divorcees are happier than they have ever been.

They didn’t get there by waiting to feel better. They learned to let go of the anger. They learned how to be in relationships in which there is true, healthy communication. They learned to love themselves. They didn’t do it by themselves.

The bad news is that there are lots of books and therapists telling you that they can help you. Even though they have only been through it themselves once or don’t even specialize in divorce.

The good news is that we have a program that has been running for over 30 years, for thousands of people. We know it works.

As such, all you have to do to succeed is go through our step by step process. 

And that is what the Rebuilding process will do.

Introducing…

The Rebuilding Workshop is a 10 week program with live video group calls, along with supplemental resources and support.

In that time you will learn how to let go of the anger, the sadness and have a whole new love for your life and your future.

This course will bring you peace, joy, and satisfaction to your life so that you can live a life you love.

But make no mistake there is work to be done.

We are not promising an effortless process. 

Very little in life that is worthwhile is effortless.

However, if you are up for a challenge and prepared to do the work, then the rewards of the program can be amazing and utterly life changing.

Imagine knowing what it would be like to be living a wonderful life, every day being a blessing and a joy to experience. 

Let’s talk about what is included:

Week 1

The Blocks to Healing Relationship Loss

A practical overview of the process from fear to freedom. We know that when a relationship ending occurs most of us feel overwhelmed and often devastated. Three things happen in the first class. Connect with your classmates and start to build relationships where you can share your story in a safe, supportive environment. Next we look at the upcoming process so that you understand how it will unfold. Finally, we will start to look at fear and denial – two critical roadblocks to healing. Just in this first session people find that they start to gain some emotional strength, stability and resiliency.

The structured way that the Seminar was put together, helped me move through the initial pain, frustration and confusion. Even though I have benefited from therapy, this process made a big difference because I kept building a new foundation and new ways to become more adept at dealing with conflict and challenges.

Mary T.

Before I made the decision to take this class, I was lost emotionally and mentally. I remember how isolated I was from the world because of the depression. I couldn’t believe that someday I will go through a divorce. I lost sense of self. I didn’t even know what my purpose in life is and why am I still here. I got to the point where I hated myself because of the feeling of rejection. It was like a nightmare I wasn’t sure if I would ever wake up from it. I have tried almost everything but nothing has helped me get through this struggle but this class. Nick did a great job in reaching out for those who are in need to get their life back. He helped me understand where I’m and why I’m feeling the way I was. Not only that but he also gave me the effective tools to develop a healthy inner self and to continue my life that way I would like it to be regardless of my past. The wonderful people I met in this class have also impacted me tremendously. Sharing our divorce/separation experiences and everything that came with it has made me feel that I’m not alone. This group class was the best decision I’ve ever made and I feel so blessed to meet every one of you. Thank you all for your advice and the words of encouragement. I can now move on with my life and hope that I’ll continue fulfilling my purpose in this life.

Susan

Week 2

Relationship Dynamics

Clarifying what behaviors work for us, and which behaviors are maladaptive. We will then highlight how to emphasize what works and how let go of what doesn’t.

In this session people start to understand themselves at a level they never really realized before. We look “under the hood” at why you do what you do, and why that influenced your past relationships and will in the future unless you address them. 

Many students say this is one of the most eye-opening lessons and life changing moments. 

I am several years removed from my divorce. Still, this was a fabulous personal growth opportunity for me. Nick is expert at setting an accepting tone to the class. His patience and willingness to “wait” with us in silence as we process some of our most difficult experiences let me know that he valued each and everyone’s thoughts and feelings. Nick is extraordinarily kind and able to empathize with those taking his workshop. He enhanced Dr. Fisher’s work with several of his own activities and discussions. One of these was the discussions of the Drama and Authentic Triangles. I applied this not only to my separation/divorce experience, but also to many relationships in my personal and professional life. I recommend this learning opportunity to all who has come through divorce and ask, “Now what? How can I find greater happiness and satisfaction in my life?

Helen P

Week 3

Grieving the Losses

Relationship ending involves many losses.  With each loss, there is grief. In class three we will learn about healthy ways to deal with grief and loss.

Then, do one of the most powerful exercises and one that you won’t find anywhere else. 

In this lesson you will learn how to process your grief – and ANY future loss – in a very powerful way. Most people report a lightness of being after completing the exercises discussed in this class.

Enrolling in Nick’s seminar literally saved my life. I was in such pain and couldn’t stop crying even though almost a year had passed since my divorce. My doctors recommended numerous books and prescribed countless prescriptions, but I was stuck in my grief. The longer I was stuck, the more fearful I became. It was a vicious cycle. My heart was squeezed so tight, I could barely breathe. I never experienced such pain. I was losing hope and wished I was dead. I completed the Self-Test online and Nick immediately called to offer support. I signed up for his 10-week course and not only did real healing begin, but Nick gave us valuable tools needed to move forward and build a more authentic life. Everyone who participated in our seminar agreed it was life-changing. Overall Satisfaction = 10.

WTR

Week 4

Managing and Expressing Anger

Almost everyone dealing with relationship ending feels angry and some of us are infuriated. Anger is probably one of the least understood emotions. Understanding the underlying causes of anger, the varying degrees of intensity of anger, and how to express anger are the focus of week four.

As in week 3, the release of anger opens a doorway to happiness. When you aren’t carrying the anger with you it is like putting down a 100 pound weight on your shoulders. 

It was in about the fourth or fifth week when a lot of what I was learning came together for me, and the deep pain I had been in, started for the first time, to become manageable. As the Seminar went on, I found that I was able to become more focused at work and more attentive to my children’s needs

Sally B

Week 5

Openness

Most of us have a variety of ways we hide and defend. One of the primary ways we do this is through the use of our “masks” – for example: The responsible one, the friendly one, the life of the party, the helpless one etc. The goal in week 5 is to identify which masks we tend to use and then learn how we can identify with our real or authentic self.

I’m so thankful to have had the opportunity to have taken this journey with you and the class. It’s been very mind blowing and a real eye opener.

Mike

Week 6

Building Self-Esteem

Most of us find that with relationship ending we have a low sense of self-worth. We deserve to feel positive and good about ourselves so n this class you’ll learn practical steps that will lead to increased, sustainable, high self-esteem.

Week 7

Love

Probably no topic has been written about and talked about more than Love. Most of us don’t have a true sense of what it means to love. Relationship ending is the result of the unraveling of love. We will learn how to be a loving person—especially to love ourselves.

Week 8

Purpose

The ending of a committed relationship is often fraught with resentment, blame and anger. In order to move on, to create a wonderful life, we need to let go. Letting go requires deliberate effort—a process we call forgiveness. Forgiveness is not well understood, and not frequently practiced. In this class, you learn how to let go and to be able to move forward.

In the midst of trying to cope with a troubled relationship and the pain of the ending, many of us lose sight of the fact that we have a purpose beyond the relationship. In the week 8, we will delve into a more complete understanding of how to live purposefully.

I would wholeheartedly encourage you to embrace Nick and the work and help that he provides so that you can walk a path to find yourself.

BB

Great course and great value!

R. Rummel

It was in about the fourth or fifth week when a lot of what I was learning came together for me, and the deep pain I had been in, started for the first time, to become manageable. As the Seminar went on, I found that I was able to become more focused at work and more attentive to my children’s needs

Sally B

At the beginning of the Seminar I was struggling a lot. The Facilitator, my fellow students, and the homework made a huge difference. I really was not sure I would feel good again. Now, I feel better, and have a much clearer sense of how I stay out of struggle, and keep moving forward in a positive way.

Marilyn D

Before I made the decision to take this class, I was lost emotionally and mentally. I remember how isolated I was from the world because of the depression. I couldn’t believe that someday I will go through a divorce. I lost sense of self. I didn’t even know what my purpose in life is and why am I still here. I got to the point where I hated myself because of the feeling of rejection. It was like a nightmare I wasn’t sure if I would ever wake up from it. I have tried almost everything but nothing has helped me get through this struggle but this class. Nick did a great job in reaching out for those who are in need to get their life back. He helped me understand where I’m and why I’m feeling the way I was. Not only that but he also gave me the effective tools to develop a healthy inner self and to continue my life that way I would like it to be regardless of my past. The wonderful people I met in this class have also impacted me tremendously. Sharing our divorce/separation experiences and everything that came with it has made me feel that I’m not alone. This group class was the best decision I’ve ever made and I feel so blessed to meet every one of you. Thank you all for your advice and the words of encouragement. I can now move on with my life and hope that I’ll continue fulfilling my purpose in this life.

Susan

I believe the most impactful part of our seminar for me was, how it taught me about myself. I became aware that I mattered. I had completely lost myself throughout my life of marriage and kids. I had existed as a non-entity until now. I learned that I am worth focusing on, being taken care of, valued, and cherished. I am worth having a good time, laughing, and my feelings, thoughts and dreams matter! I am a kind and giving person, but I can also take care of ME now as well. I am stronger than I think I am, and I am ENOUGH! This will be a constant journey of self-worth for me, so please keep me in all of your prayers and thoughts. You are all forever with me! Thank you, Nick!!!!!!!!!! Thanks everyone.

Leisa

When my husband left suddenly and I was new to Denver, I knew I needed help navigating the scary world of separation and divorce. I discovered the The Fisher Rebuilding Seminar through online research and believe this course not only sustained me during a difficult time but also provided key resources for building a life apart from one’s partner. Nick Meima does a superb job of creating a safe space for thoughtful and meaningful exploration during a very fragile time in one’s life. The deliberate and intentional topics help those in distress make sense of what is happening and create new stories for how to create purposeful lives. It has been a time of growth, healing and tremendous encouragement.

M. Larma

My overall experience with Rebuilders was extremely insightful and educational in regards to the path back to the loving independent person I know I am. Nick was inspirational in guiding fellow classmates through each week, and holding our hand along the path to becoming whole again. I looked forward to meeting each week to learn from others and share my experiences. There were times during the program Nick would reach out to check on participants and their well-being. He went above and beyond what I expected. I wish I had known about this seminar during earlier losses in my life because I feel inspired and now know that my healing has been accelerated as a result of this seminar. It has been a lifesaver, literally.

Chris

Nick told me that we all go through the ending alone and that in order to heal and grow we cannot get through by ourselves. The huge amount of support I gained from the book, the teaching, the session with Nick and from my fellow students was amazing”

Melanie N

There was no Divorce Workshops available near where I live. I was skeptical that an online class could help. The Seminar, with the technology, made it very easy and accessible. All my questions were always answered. The facilitation and teaching were excellent. I made friends with several students – we talk weekly. All of us grew so much as a result of the Seminar

Dan P

Getting away from the obsessive/incessant thoughts and memories from the relationship ending. I remember going into this program 27 years earlier thinking that nobody could feel as badly as I did at the time. I soon found that was not true and everyone there was hurting no matter their circumstances. The same was true again. Being in a group setting, hearing others situations and issues, relating to them and growing through the crap together was very helpful for me. Thanks to you all for being part of my experience.

Bill R

Enrolling in Nick’s seminar literally saved my life. I was in such pain and couldn’t stop crying even though almost a year had passed since my divorce. My doctors recommended numerous books and prescribed countless prescriptions, but I was stuck in my grief. The longer I was stuck, the more fearful I became. It was a vicious cycle. My heart was squeezed so tight, I could barely breathe. I never experienced such pain. I was losing hope and wished I was dead. I completed the Self-Test online and Nick immediately called to offer support. I signed up for his 10-week course and not only did real healing begin, but Nick gave us valuable tools needed to move forward and build a more authentic life. Everyone who participated in our seminar agreed it was life-changing. Overall Satisfaction = 10.

WTR

I am several years removed from my divorce. Still, this was a fabulous personal growth opportunity for me. Nick is expert at setting an accepting tone to the class. His patience and willingness to “wait” with us in silence as we process some of our most difficult experiences let me know that he valued each and everyone’s thoughts and feelings. Nick is extraordinarily kind and able to empathize with those taking his workshop. He enhanced Dr. Fisher’s work with several of his own activities and discussions. One of these was the discussions of the Drama and Authentic Triangles. I applied this not only to my separation/divorce experience, but also to many relationships in my personal and professional life. I recommend this learning opportunity to all who has come through divorce and ask, “Now what? How can I find greater happiness and satisfaction in my life?

Helen P

I would like to start by saying that in the beginning of my breakup, before deciding to go through with the divorce process, I was a very lost soul. We were married for such a long time. I didn’t know which way was up and was very frightened. I had very unusual circumstances for why my wife and I decided to get a divorce. Personally, I did not want to go through a divorce, I was in denial and there was a lot of hurt. One day my therapist suggested joining a local meet up website to try and connect to new people. I was browsing around and I found the [After Divorce Support] group. I went to the website and I filled out the questionnaire. I was then contacted and by my surprise I was invited to lunch and was given feedback based off my answers. I was a little suspicious about meeting with a group of strangers but I felt comfortable after the first night of the class. The emotions poured through and the healing process began. Not only did I participate in discussing my feelings, which I never do, but I also gained a sense of understanding and insight on why my marriage had ended. This process was not easy in the beginning but I allowed myself to share and really dig into who I am as a person and how to move on. I have gained many valuable friendships and a support group that may last the rest of my life. Nick and Tara, the group leaders, were very understanding and I admire what they do and what they continue to do considering they have been there themselves. Looking back, this was the best decision I have ever made. To be able to bond with others going through similar situations was very insightful and I learned so much. There is still so much to learn about life and my new journey being single again and now I have direction and the fear has become my strength to move on and maybe one day love again.

Everett

Week 9

Growing Relationships

We all need friends in order to create a fulfilling life. We will focus on friendship and emotional intimacy as the foundation for all future relationships. The class offers a deeper understanding of how to build friendships and create more emotional intimacy.

Words cannot express the valuable insight I found during my workshop experience. I find myself stronger, much happier & less anxiety-ridden. I believe processing every single emotion truly made the difference. I tell anyone going thru a split to invest in this class. The structure & support of people in the trenches with me, were priceless. Thank u, thank u, thank u! You really helped in leading me to the path toward healing.

Anne N

Week 10

Authenticity

In order to move out into the world we find out that freedom comes from acceptance. Acceptance of ourselves, and of others. When we accept our perfect imperfection we are strong. We are a force to be reckoned with. We set boundaries and stick to them, without struggle.

Students often leave our classes feeling a strength, confidence and peace that they have never known before. 

With this new found self where will you go?

Thank you Nick for a great class! I really don’t know where I would have been without it. So grateful I have moved away from the state of blame and victimization and so glad to feel empowered and ready to create a new life!

Kristin B

Here's What is included

Based on the best-selling book, Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, by Bruce Fisher.  The series has been refined over 40 years to create the most effective program for healing when a relationship ends.  The Rebuilding Seminar is designed to provide support, information and practical tools – all which will enable you to move forward with strength, clarity, and wisdom.  The goal is to help you be your best – at home, work, socially, everywhere.

  • 10 Weekly Online or In-Person Group Sessions
  • In Class Exercises to Practice the Tools
  • Weekly Homework with Review in Each Class
  • Access to a Private Facebook to Connect and Get Support from graduates and others in your class.

The Rebuilding Workshop is perfect for you if….

You are isolated and/or want to connect with others. Many students build deep and meaningful relationships with their peers.

You are ready to learn new ways of thinking, being, and feeling.

You want to be able to have live conversations with the course leader and your peers.

You can dedicate 2 hours per week, for 10 weeks to the live classes. If you need to miss one or two that is okay. You can get a recorded version of the class. 

You are coachable.

It’s important to realize that you DON’T have to be at a certain place in your divorce process. People at all stages take our programs and even people that have been divorced 10 years. 

As such it is suitable for people that want to address to address just one or two aspects of the material listed above. Students typically find out that they enjoy every single class, even material they didn’t think they needed.