Divorce Adjustment Quiz 1. I like being the person I amAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never2. I can communicate with my ex or Soon-to-be-ex in a calm and rational mannerAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never3. There are many things about my personality I would like to changeAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never4. I feel like I am an attractive personAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never5. There are many things about my body I would like to changeAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never6. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separationAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never7. Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like themAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never8. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former love partnerAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never9. I hope my former love partner is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I amAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never10. I am unable to control my emotionsAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never11. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partnersAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never12. I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for meAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never13. I have given up on my former love partner and getting back togetherAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never14. I feel very frightened insideAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never15. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former love partner's sideAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never16. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about datingAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never17. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great dealAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never18. I avoid people even though I want and need friendsAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never19. I sigh a lotAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never20. I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship endAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never21. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partnerAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never22. Life is somehow passing me byAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never23. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partnerAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never24. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start cryingAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never25. I can't believe our love relationship is endingAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never26. I become upset when I think about my love partner dating someoneAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never27. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable personAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never28. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am singleAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never29. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work outAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never30. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/manAlmost AlwaysUsuallySometimesSeldomAlmost Never31. What is your gender? Female Male Prefer not to say32. >What do you do during normal work hours? Stay at home parent Physical/Active type of job Managerial job Desk Job Not currently working/Other33. > Where are you in the divorce process?Please select your answerConsidering divorceIn the divorce processDivorced34. How do you feel about your income versus expenses?There are a lot of different types of income and a lot of expenses. When you look at your bank account, in general, is there more money in it each month or less? Your answer to this will help us best help you address one of the most critical impacts of divorce. My income is significantly greater than my expenses My income is somewhat greater than my expenses My income is about the same as my expenses My income is somewhat less than my expenses My income is significantly less than my expenses35. What do you think about YOUR debt?Two people might have the same amount of debt but perceive it very differently. What is your perception of your debt situation? I'm very worried about my debt I'm a little worried about my debts I think my debt is manageable I'm totally covered. I feel good about the debt that I have, if any.36. Do you have money that is working for YOU?401ks, investing in stocks, investing in a house, and so many other things help your money work for you so that you don't have to. In divorce, this may be something you lose or gets reduced significantly. Yes, I've invested well and I have multiple ways that my money is increasing Yes, I have one thing that is working for me. No, but I plan to start soon No, and I have no idea where to even begin.37. Do you have a financial safety net?Life happens, and then a surprise bill hits. Can you absorb it? Yes, if a major expense hit I could probably cover it. I have a little bit of a cushion against expenses I would be in trouble if an unexpected expense was needed No, anything would be difficult for me38. What ages are your children (if any)?>Do you have kids? None 0-5 years old 6-12 years old 13-18 years old 19 or older39. What level of conflict is/was there in the divorce?As the conflict in a divorce rises it has a higher impact on children. It is/was a very amicable separation/divorce There is/was some conflict but not much There is/was a fair amount of conflict in the separation/divorce It is/was a very high-conflict separation/divorce40. How concerned are you about the effect of your divorce on your children?Skip this question if you don't have children Very concerned Somewhat concerned Not sure Not too concerned Not at all concerned41. How would you describe your parenting situation with your ex?Select "Not Applicable" if you don't have children.Independent parenting is typically in high-conflict divorces in which the way in which children are raised is very different. Each parent makes their own choices, rules, routines, etc.Parallel parenting means that each parent has differences in choices, rules, and routines but they are similar and each parent is aware of the situation at the other parents house.Collaborative parenting means that the parenting is identical and both parents work hard to be consistent and cooperative with each other. Independent Parallel Collaborative Not Applicable42. How well are you sleeping these days? Most nights are poor sleep Some nights are poor sleep Most nights I get decent sleep I always sleep well43. How do you feel about what you are eating these days? I always eat healthy food I eat healthy food most of the time I eat unhealthy food less often than healthy food I rarely eat healthy food44. How do you feel about how you are taking care of your body?It might be exercise, relaxation, etc. Whatever works for you I am doing something for my body most days of the week I am doing something for my body a few days of the week I do something for my body occasionally I rarely do something for my body45. Do you have a daily routine that you follow? I get up at the same time most days I go to sleep at the same time most days I keep busy most days I eat regularly throughout the day46. Do you have friends or family in your life that you can talk to about your divorce? Yes, I have a number of people that I can talk to Yes, I have one person that I can talk to No, I don't have anyone that I feel comfortable talking to about my divorce No, but I don't think I need to47. Are you talking to a professional counselor/therapist/coach? Yes No, and I don't plan to No, but I would like to find someone that I feel comfortable with48. How would you rate the communication between you and your ex or soon to be ex? Terrible It's not good It's okay Excellent49. Do you know other people that have gone through divorce that you can talk to about yours? Yes, I know at least a few Yes, I know one No, and I don't want to No, but I want to50. How optimistic are you for your future? I'm struggling to enjoy today, let alone the future I think I will be okay some day Each day is getting better I'm looking forward to starting a new chapter51. How difficult has your divorce been for you? Very difficult Hard Some days good, some days bad Pretty easy Very easy52. Do you know what you want to do with the rest of your life ? No idea, I haven't even thought about it I have some dreams that I am considering I have some things that I am starting I have started Rebuilding my future Every day I am actively creating my new future53. Do you believe you will love someone again? No, I have no interest in being in a loving relationship ever again Not right now but maybe sometime in the future Maybe. Yes but it will take the right person Absolutely! I know there is someone great out there for me.Please fill in the comment box below. Thank you for completing the self-assessment. An email with your results will be sent to you shortly! You are on your way to a better life! Email address Name Phone Number Time is Up! Leave a Reply Cancel replyYou must be logged in to post a comment.